Step 6: Embracing Readiness for Change
“Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.”
Recovery is a journey of transformation, and Step 6 is a pivotal moment in that process. It asks you to become entirely ready to have your character defects removed, signaling a deep willingness to change. This step is about acceptance, humility, and trust - acknowledging that personal growth requires letting go of old behaviors and embracing a new way of living.
Why Step 6 Is Important
Step 6 is often described as the bridge between self-awareness and action. By this point in the 12-step journey, you have already:
- Admitted your struggles (Step 1)
- Recognized a higher power (Step 2)
- Committed to change (Step 3)
- Examined your past behaviors (Step 4)
- Confessed your shortcomings (Step 5)
Now, Step 6 asks: Are you truly ready to let go of these defects? It’s not just about identifying flaws - it’s about preparing to release them. Without this willingness, lasting change becomes difficult, and old habits may resurface.
How to Accomplish Step 6
Identify Patterns That Hold You Back
Take time to reflect on the behaviors, attitudes, and emotional responses that have contributed to your past struggles. Ask yourself:
- What habits have harmed my relationships?
- What fears or resentments keep me stuck?
- How do my actions affect my well-being?
Lean on Your Support System
Recovery isn’t a solo journey. Talk to your sponsor, therapist, or support group about the challenges of Step 6. Hearing others’ experiences can provide perspective and encouragement.
Practice Self-Compassion
Letting go of character defects isn’t instant - it’s a gradual process. Be patient with yourself and recognize that progress, not perfection, is the goal.
Processing What Step 6 Means to You
Step 6 is deeply personal. It’s about accepting yourself while striving for growth. Some ways to process its meaning include:
- Journaling about your readiness for change and what that change may look like
- Meditating on the idea of surrender and transformation
- Discussing your insights with trusted mentors or peers
- Recognizing that willingness is an ongoing practice, not a one-time decision
Ultimately, Step 6 is about embracing the possibility of a better life. It’s a moment of courage - choosing to step forward, even when change feels uncertain.
Prepare for Step 7
Step 6 sets the stage for Step 7, where you will humbly ask your higher power to remove your shortcomings. By fully embracing Step 6, the transition to Step 7 becomes more natural and meaningful.
How to Prepare for Step 7
- Reflect on your journey so far - Look at how far you’ve come and recognize the progress you’ve made.
- Practice daily surrender - Whether through prayer, meditation, or affirmations, remind yourself that you’re ready to let go.
- Talk to your support system - Sponsors, mentors, or peers can help you process your readiness for this step.
- Embrace patience - Step 7 isn’t about instant transformation - it’s about being open to gradual change.
How to Know You’re Ready for Step 7
- You’ve fully embraced Step 6 - You’ve identified your character defects and genuinely want to let them go.
- You feel a shift in mindset - Instead of resisting change, you’re open to growth and transformation.
- You recognize that self-will alone isn’t enough - You understand that overcoming shortcomings requires more than just personal effort.
- You’re willing to trust the process - Even if you don’t know exactly how change will happen, you’re ready to take the next step.
- You feel a sense of humility - You acknowledge that you don’t have to carry everything alone and are open to guidance.
